Understanding Your C.O.R.E.
When my family and I are all sitting together watching a movie or TV show, we will often sit there and laugh together as we try to identify the main character’s C.O.R.E. types. My adult daughters have leaned heavily on their understanding of C.O.R.E. as they date, learn to live with roommates, make friends, and […]
The Reservoir: Dealing with Droughts
The Reservoir One of the main components of Resource Management is The Reservoir. The Reservoir is an analogy used to demonstrate how each of our emotional needs are met. There are inevitable events that deplete our reservoir of energy throughout the day; how we respond to the things that drain us plays an important role […]
Resource Management: Relationship Fillers
This month we are focusing on helping you with Resource Management, and this week is specifically about relationship fillers! Check out the blog posts from the last couple of weeks to get some background info on the reservoir and on personal fillers. The key to Resource Management is about learning how to run our lives […]
Resource Management: Fillers
This month we are focusing on helping you with Resource Management, and this week is specifically about fillers! Check out last week’s blog post here to get some background info on the reservoir. The key Resource Management is about learning how to run our lives so we have enough emotional resources to deal with the […]
Conflict Resolution: Communicate
Dealing with and resolving conflict is easily one of the most difficult things for most relationships! Conflict is a crucial part of any relationship. The key to a healthy relationship isn’t avoiding conflict, it’s learning how to do conflict healthily. CPR of Conflict Resolution The three main components of conflict resolution can be remembered with […]
Rewiring the Brain: Cognitive Cycles
Last week, we talked about how the brain works. Now that we understand the basics of neurology, we can learn how to help our brains work healthily! Brain/Body Interactive Cycle This is the basic process that occurs as we interact with the world. When something happens, our body reacts and sends a message to our […]
Neurology Made Easy: Upper and Lower Brain
What is “Neurology Made Easy?” This topic is designed to help you understand a little bit more about how our brains work! The brain is an organ, just like any other. If we give our brains the things they need, barring rare cases of a chronic biological problem, or other disability, they will work the […]
Resource Management
What is Resource Management? Resource Management is the idea that we need to effectively and proactively manage our lives so that we maintain the necessary energy/emotional resources to contribute to our relationships and deal with the problems and setbacks that are part of life. In its simplest definition, it is having however many resources are […]
Sexuality
Why is Sexuality Important? The goal and result of healthy sexuality in a marriage is closeness! Sex has the potential to bind us together. The way we handle sex influences the love in our relationship, and the love and safety in our relationship influences sex. Sex is inherently vulnerable, so when we are vulnerable and […]
Welcome to Healthy and Happy!
Welcome to the Healthy and Happy Relationship blog. Why “Healthy and Happy” and not “Happy and Healthy” ? In order to have happy relationships and happy lives, we have to be willing to do the things that create “Happy.” In other words, you have to start with healthy so that you can be happy. One […]