Resource Management: Fillers

This month we are focusing on helping you with Resource Management, and this week is specifically about fillers!  Check out last week’s blog post here to get some background info on the reservoir.  The key Resource Management is about learning how to run our lives so we have enough emotional resources to deal with the […]

Why CORE?

CORE is one of my absolute favorite things to talk about! In a nutshell, CORE is the temperament (kind of like personality) model that I developed over years of research. It helps us understand the innate part of us that doesn’t change and motivates why we do the things we do! CORE can help us […]

Conflict Resolution: Communicate

Dealing with and resolving conflict is easily one of the most difficult things for most relationships! Conflict is a crucial part of any relationship. The key to a healthy relationship isn’t avoiding conflict, it’s learning how to do conflict healthily.  CPR of Conflict Resolution The three main components of conflict resolution can be remembered with […]

Rewiring the Brain: Cognitive Cycles

Last week, we talked about how the brain works. Now that we understand the basics of neurology, we can learn how to help our brains work healthily!  Brain/Body Interactive Cycle This is the basic process that occurs as we interact with the world. When something happens, our body reacts and sends a message to our […]

Neurology Made Easy: Upper and Lower Brain

What is “Neurology Made Easy?” This topic is designed to help you understand a little bit more about how our brains work! The brain is an organ, just like any other. If we give our brains the things they need, barring rare cases of a chronic biological problem, or other disability, they will work the […]

Resource Management

What is Resource Management? Resource Management is the idea that we need to effectively and proactively manage our lives so that we maintain the necessary energy/emotional resources to contribute to our relationships and deal with the problems and setbacks that are part of life. In its simplest definition, it is having however many resources are […]

Sexuality

Why is Sexuality Important? The goal and result of healthy sexuality in a marriage is closeness! Sex has the potential to bind us together. The way we handle sex influences the love in our relationship, and the love and safety in our relationship influences sex. Sex is inherently vulnerable, so when we are vulnerable and […]

CORE

What is CORE? I have always been really interested in personality. It’s one of the things that got me interested in being a therapist/coach in the first place, because personality helps us understand who we are and what makes us tick and also helps us understand other people.  Across the years, I had never come […]

Welcome to Healthy and Happy!

Welcome to the Healthy and Happy Relationship blog. Why “Healthy and Happy” and not “Happy and Healthy” ? In order to have happy relationships and happy lives, we have to be willing to do the things that create “Happy.” In other words, you have to start with healthy so that you can be happy. One […]