Healthy+Happy Holiday Survival Guide: Part I

Not-So-Happy Holidays Despite the radio’s continuous barrage of so-called ‘Holiday Favorites,’ informing us that it is the season to be merry and bright, the holiday season is often a time of high stress, decreased serotonin, and unmet expectations. Actually, one of the biggest reasons the holidays can be so stressful is because of all of […]

Understanding Your C.O.R.E.

When my family and I are all sitting together watching a movie or TV show, we will often sit there and laugh together as we try to identify the main character’s C.O.R.E. types. My adult daughters have leaned heavily on their understanding of C.O.R.E. as they date, learn to live with roommates, make friends, and […]

What is Said vs. How it’s Said

How It Started… When an event occurs, the body reacts by sending a message up to the brain telling us that *something* happened. We then interpret our body’s reaction to the event, feeling and then acting in response to our interpretation. Now, the thing is that most of this process happens without us really realizing […]

Need to Recharge?

A Drained Battery Have you ever gotten out of bed and pulled your cellphone off the charger… Just to find that it hadn’t recharged during the night? The same thing can happen to us!  You know those mornings when you wake up and it still feels like the middle of the night, instead of feeling recharged […]

Feeling Safe in Your Relationships

Attachment Attachment Theory is a theory of human relationships that seeks to explain how the close or intimate relationships in our lives work. Put simply, attachment is about what happens when we are emotionally disorganized. And what do we need when we are emotionally disorganized? A safe place to turn–or in this case- a secure […]

What Do Others Think of You?

Assumptions…Good and Bad The way that you feel others view you can tell you a lot about how you *actually* view yourself. You might consider yourself to be a confident person, but when you walk into a room full of people whispering, do you assume that they are speaking poorly about you? On the other […]

Suck’n Mud…24/7

Where You ARE: You wake up to a messy house every morning. Your job makes you miserable. You love your kids/spouse/parents/etc. but you aren’t sure if you like them… You weigh about 15 pounds more/less than you did at the start of Covid and it’s starting to worry you. You look at your life and […]

‘Did I Miss Something?’

Missing Pieces Have you ever jumped into a conversation and thought…‘Did I miss something?’ You try to put the pieces together and understand what they are talking about, but you realize that you are missing some foundational detail of what is being discussed. And it’s keeping you from understanding what’s going on. In some settings, […]

Conflict Resolution CPR: Part Two

Earlier this month, we outlined the first two aspects of my Conflict Resolution CPR strategy: “Communication” and “Protect and Preserve Attachment.” This week, I want to talk to you about the final element–the R. Recieve The R in Conflict Resolution CPR stands for “Receive.” Unlike the first two parts, “Receive” focuses on the listener rather […]

Conflict Resolution CPR: Part One

Managing conflict is one of the most difficult things to do in a relationship. Most people don’t know how to fight well, and there is a lot more to conflict resolution than simply ‘winning’ the argument. It is not normal to fight well! So if you want to work through conflict in a healthy way, […]